If its one thing I have learned from my 20+ years on this Earth (yes, even though I am 29 I will milk the 20+ card until midnight on April 9th, 2013) it is that things rarely go according to plan. You can plan all day and night, map out strategies, and create timelines and schematics. The universe will send something so unexpected your way that your tits will most likely fly off, and flutter to the ground in a dance of frustration and failure. Even if you account for all possible scenarios and your plan works out perfectly, in the end all you are left with is a feeling of “Wow, well I guess that worked out just fine.”
Where it the fun in that? It boggles my mind when people plan their lives and relationships from an early age. I remember when I was young, my plan was to live in the city, work in advertising or business, and commute out to the suburbs at night to my wife and kids. While I do live in the city, the only advertising I do is putting my nipples on display when I go out, and my only commute is to Dunkin Donuts for an orange Coolata. We like to think that we have total control of our lives, but the truth is there are many other variables involved and opportunities present. If you stick to your plan and don’t allow yourself to see them, you miss out on more than half of the amazing things that could come your way.
This is never more true than when it comes to relationships. I know from personal experience that relationships happen when they are meant to happen. You can’t force it, or speed up the process no matter how short your skirt is. My suggestion to you is that if you have a plan in place for your relationship, ditch it. Do the exact opposite, and see where you end up. I am 99% sure a greater amount of happiness will result from going with the flow of a relationship, rather than trying to designate the flow.
This is because relationships, like aortas live in the realm of the heart, not the realm of the head.
