I haven’t played with magnets since I was a young kid, standing in my living room surrounded by crack needles and prostitutes, but the one thing that I remember about them is that opposites attract. In case you failed science class because you were busy giving blowies under the bleachers, magnets are made so that the similar ends of north repel each other, but are attracted to their southern counterparts. This idea that opposites attract is a good model for relationships between people.
The point of life is to experience as much as you can. The point of experience is to challenge yourself, overcome, and grow. Normally, when you are uncomfortable in a situation it is because you are entering unfamiliar territory, and if you don’t let it conquer you, uncomfortable situations can be the most powerful tools in our journey to self awareness.
If you date someone exactly like yourself, you will never be pushed to think outside the box or do things outside your comfort zone. For a lot of people that may sound like heaven, but for people who take life by the balls and ride it into the ground it is more akin to torture. I was having this conversation with the guy I am seeing lately, because he is proper, straitlaced, well-mannered, and blushes when I say the words double penetration in public, while I don’t.
The point is, he needs someone to help him loosen up and I need someone to reel me back in. Cameron, from Modern family said it best when he said:
“There are dreamers and there are realists in this world.
You’d think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists but… more often than not, the opposite is true.
You see the dreamers need the realists to keep them from soaring too close to the sun.
And the realists… well, without the dreamers, they might not ever get off the ground.”
So go out there and find someone that is nothing like you. If it petrifies you to date them, then you are doing something right.
