I decided last year that I want to get married. I had never before really entertained the thought, because I am really good at being on my own. That isn’t to say that I don’t want love, or a partner, but I am not willing to slow down or compromise my own happiness for someone else. It hit me last year that when I find the right person, I won’t have to.
I think that people compromise too much of themselves for their partners. The reason people get into relationships in the first place is because they like what the other person brings into their life. Then, when it becomes “our life” most of that shit gets lost in translation.
My goal is to find someone who challenges me at the beginning, and never stops. I want them to hold onto their sense of self, and I want them to want me to hold onto mine, too. That way, the relationship we create will be one where we are constantly pushing each other forward, and growing individually and together simultaneously. The person I end up with will force me to be a better version of myself, not whatever version of me they have in their head.
When I meet that person, I will know it immediately (as my mother always says) and I will probably marry them. When you commit to someone like that, you are making a commitment to yourself, too.
You are committing to remain yourself; the person they love. There is something really beautiful in that.
