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Sex Spotting: Faking Confidence to Get Laid

confidence and sex
Written by Gary

confidence and sex

The above image states that there is nothing sexier than a woman who doesn’t “give a fuck.” The irony here is that by acting like you don’t “give a fuck” you stand a much greater chance of getting fucked. We all know that the idea that women don’t care about sex as much as men isn’t totally true. Women want sex just as much as men do, they just appreciate different facets of it. No matter how you slice it, sex is something we all desire and confidence is the key to getting it.

You have to choose between two guys at a bar: One of them is having fun with his friends, laughing, and having a good time. The other is hanging on your shoulder practically begging you to let him smell your panties. Which one do you choose?

The answer is obvious because that is the way humans are wired. We don’t desire the things that come too easily to us because we are constantly trying to achieve, whether we are women or men, or women who like women, or men who like men. The most surefire way to attract a man is to act like you don’t need his approval, i.e. act confidently. So what happens if you don’t have much experience with feeling confident?

Fake it. Women have been doing it for years with orgasms, and guys remain blissfully ignorant. I am not saying faking orgasms is the right thing to do, but I am saying that you will never even get the chance to fake one if you aren’t having any sex. Faking confidence is unlike faking an orgasm, because the longer you fake confidence, the more confidence you actually end up feeling. Confidence has two sides: the way you feel on the inside, and the way others perceive you on the outside. Change one, and the other follows.

So how do you fake confidence? Ignore your fears. Decide which guy is getting you moist like a Betty Crocker cake-in-a-box and make eye contact. Then, go up and introduce yourself. Then walk away. All you have to do is say three words to him. The worst that could happen is that you go home alone and never see him again. But you will never know if you don’t at least try.

And what does sex lead to? Intimacy. What does intimacy lead to? Relationships. That is the way guys think. So whether you want a one-night-stand (there is no shame in that AT ALL) or a long term relationship, having confidence is the way to get it.

And the easiest way to gain confidence is to fake it until you make it.

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About the author


Gary is the gay guy that every girl wants to be, and every guy wants to be with (Mostly because he can't get pregnant). He is based in Manhattan, but loves traveling to exotic new people, and sleeping with interesting new places. He is an adventurous writer, digital artist, and game designer that will try almost anything if it makes a good story.
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