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Relationship Spotting: How Texting Changed Our Relationships

Lindsey Wixson in Text Talk
Written by emilyc

Lindsey Wixson in Text Talk

Remember when people would call you to ask you out on dates? Remember when you would talk to someone, like, with your voice – in full sentences and full words – to get to know them? Remember when someone would respond to you with “k”, and you didn’t think they were mad at you?

Texting has become such an unnecessary game when it comes to relationships. Misinterpretation is almost impossible to avoid. I have a friend who started seeing this guy, then one day she said to me, “Emily, I think he broke up with me. He hasn’t responded to my text yet.” A few minutes later, she found out he was having dinner with his mom and didn’t have his phone with him. Texting makes it very hard not to assume the worst. I’ve had people ask me if I’m mad at them after not texting them back right away. I’m like, “If by ‘mad at you’ you mean ‘I was taking a shower,’ then, yes. Yes I am mad at you.”

The almost complete overthrow of all normal interaction by the popularity of text messaging has made communication so much less personal and leaves a lot to be desired, such as proper grammar, punctuation, spelling, and most importantly, sarcasm. Actually, who am I kidding? Why would I waste my time laughing on a phone call when I can just keep a straight face and text “lol”?

 

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emilyc

Emily is a New Yorker trapped in a Floridian's body and loves every minute of her big city life. With a major in international business and years of being surrounded by ill-fitting suits and all the wrong shoes, she learned that the importance of fashion needs to be communicated to the world. To her, fashion is on the same level as charity work and feeding hungry children. Emily can be found frolicking the streets of her gayborhood enjoying the off-color humor of the gays.