I think that any event where people have to walk on eggshells regarding what they say has the opportunity to be super-awkward. Funerals are the worst, because nobody ever knows what to say, or how to comfort the family. I always try and make everyone laugh. Yes, I am that guy. Still, whether or not there is ever the right thing to say, there are definitely things you shouldn’t say. Here is a short list of a few of those awkward conversation enders:
You know he/she’s going to Hell. Funerals are the last place you should be judgmental. After all, black probably makes you look pasty.
I know just how you feel. Even if you have lost someone, you don’t know how anyone else feels. So don’t try and make it about you.
He/She is in a better place now. How do you know. Maybe this person’s uncle was a Buddhist Muslim that believed they are going to burn in Seven Hells.
I told him/her to quit smoking while they still could. Funerals are not the right place to be haughty or condescending.
Are you on any medications? I know you may think you are being helpful and curious, but people cope with death in their own way. If your friend or acquaintance wants to drown their sorrows in a bottle of vodka with an Ambien chaser, just let them.
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