Relationship Spotting: The Importance of having a Support System

Written by Gary

The single most important thing to have in life is a support system of loved ones. Even if you prefer to live life as a loner, it is invaluable to know that you have people who love you and care whether you live or die. I pride myself on having an amazing collection of personalities that stand beside, behind, or in front of me when I need them. Here are just a few examples of their utter importance:

In case you ever become homeless. There have been times in my life when I was a syringe of heroin away from living in a refrigerator box under the interstate. We all go through rough shit sometimes, but I have never once doubted that if things ever got really bad, I would have a plethora of couches to choose from and crash on and most of them would be semen free (at least until I spent a few nights on them).

In case you ever get in a fight. We all have that one friend. The one who is such a badass and loose cannon that you bring them places just to see what kind of shenanigans they will get into (in my case, this is my gay brother). I have several loose cannons in my life, because the best weapon you can have in a fight is a best friend. A best friend with a firearm is even better. I am not condoning violence here, but I am saying that if you are going to get in a fight, make sure you win.

In case you get your heart broken. Facebook social warfare, tire-slashing, and public humiliation are so much easier to inflict on your ex when you have a good friend not only standing beside you, but joining in. Two people can ruin someone’s life much easier than one person, and those Herpes rumors will sound much more credible if they don’t originate from your personal twitter.

In case you just need to talk. I am the king of dealing with my own problems. I can count the number of times I have approached a friend and asked for advice on my two balls. Still, I know that I have a strong network of confidantes that will drop everything for me and listen if I ever need to talk. I have an even stronger network of confidantes that will drop everything for me and join me if I ever need a drink.

Having good friends around you is 80% of having a good life. But what if you don’t have that many social connections? What if you just moved somewhere new and don’t know anyone yet?

The easiest way to gain good friends is by being a good friend. Awesomeness attracts awesomeness, as I never say. Get your sweet ass out there and form solid connections simply by being yourself – that way you will never end up asking strangers for quarters at a bus stop or taking the blame for burning your ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend down.

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About the author


Gary is the gay guy that every girl wants to be, and every guy wants to be with (Mostly because he can't get pregnant). He is based in Manhattan, but loves traveling to exotic new people, and sleeping with interesting new places. He is an adventurous writer, digital artist, and game designer that will try almost anything if it makes a good story.
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