Relationship Spotting: Your Relationship Could Use a Breakup

Written by emilyc


Sometimes all a relationship needs is a good breakup to get things back together. Now, I’m not guaranteeing that this will work 100% of the time, but I have witnessed several couples break up with their significant other (myself included), only to get back together with them and end up much happier.

In my situation, I broke up with my boyfriend for – to be frank – stupid reasons. Spending a month or two away from him made me realize just how excellent of a catch I had. This hiatus really increased my appreciation for him, and it made me say to myself, “Wow, Emily. You’re real, real dumb for breaking up with this gem. You must get back together,” ¬†and get back together we did. In the end, it turns out that my decision to break up was not dumb at all because if it never happened, we would not be in such a happy and appreciative relationship today.

I have friends who used this same breakup/hiatus tactic and have ended up back with the person to enjoy rejuvenated, longterm relationships. This tactic does not mean weekly or monthly breakups; it’s only constructive (and only maintains classiness) if it’s a one-time thing. When implemented correctly, a breakup can be just what the relationship doctor ordered!

About the author


Emily is a New Yorker trapped in a Floridian's body and loves every minute of her big city life. With a major in international business and years of being surrounded by ill-fitting suits and all the wrong shoes, she learned that the importance of fashion needs to be communicated to the world. To her, fashion is on the same level as charity work and feeding hungry children. Emily can be found frolicking the streets of her gayborhood enjoying the off-color humor of the gays.

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