Sex Spotting: Knowing When to Withhold Sex

Written by Gary

Girls and gay guys alike know that sex can very easily be used as a weapon. Straight guys, however just take bullet after bullet and never realize that what they have power, too (Luckily we don’t have too many straight male readers so this can be just between us girls). Withholding sex can be used as blackmail, as an ultimatum, or as a fun sex game, but there are several instances where it isn’t appropriate. You should not withhold sex if:

You are trying to convince him not to cheat. You want your man to remain faithful? You should probably just tattoo “Open 24 hours” on the majority of your orifices. If you think your guy is considering cheating, you should give him the most mind blowing, butt-wrenching, dollar bill curling sex he has ever had so that he always remembers where his bread is buttered. Sulking and closing your vagina up like a Washington Heights pawn shop at sundown will only drive him into the bedroom of another woman.

You are trying to punish him, but refuse to tell him why. Do you know how confusing this is for men? Unless your coinslot has some secret communication mechanism that will tip him off to the reason for your anger, there is no cause to hold your goodies hostage. Next time this happens, just tell him what he did wrong so he can apologize to you and your snatch- hopefully the makeup sex will make up for your passive aggressive tactics.

You are trying to re-virginize yourself. This is possibly the dumbest argument to date. Once you have had someone else inside you, there is no going back. I don’t care how many coochie cobwebs you can muster up, time makes no difference. Despite the allure of it, I think having sex with a virgin is a lot like a gangbang with a french soccer team. In theory it seems super hot, but in reality it is probably sweaty, jerky, smelly, and ends up with someone sticky and crying in a corner (At least that’s the way I remember it).

In order to use any weapon, you have to be properly trained. If you want to withhold sex for one or two nights to prove a point or as a way to spice up your sex life, go ahead.  Any more than two nights though, and you need to ask yourself whether you are really trying to prove a point, or whether you are using it as an excuse because the thought of your boyfriends wiener in your manties grosses you out.

If you choose option 2, then you have bigger problems than how long to keep your vagina on lockdown.

About the author


Gary is the gay guy that every girl wants to be, and every guy wants to be with (Mostly because he can't get pregnant). He is based in Manhattan, but loves traveling to exotic new people, and sleeping with interesting new places. He is an adventurous writer, digital artist, and game designer that will try almost anything if it makes a good story.
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