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Women “Train” Men to be Douchebags

Written by Bryce

Is their bad behavior really our fault?

If you’re anything like me, you’ve encountered your fair share of douchebaggery in your dating experiences.  These experiences don’t feel good, but they’re usually manageable and hopefully result in a long-lasting lesson that protects us from further bouts with DB’s.  Our friends at MarieClaire.com posted this awesome article on the idea that we, women, “train” men to be douchebags.   I’m floating back and forth between enlightened and disappointed.

My fave part:

“…the conversation quickly progressed to the point where Mr. Old-Fashioned was saying, “I swear, there’s nothing like treating a woman kind of badly to make her more into you. It’s only when you act like kind of an asshole that they perk up. It’s really depressing, actually, because it trains men to think that women like it when you treat them badly.”

I tried to talk to him out of this bad attitude. “First of all, earlier in the week you told me that you believe that women respond to persistent men — so how could that possibly square with what you’re saying now?”

‘Women giving in to men who put a lot of sexual pressure on them? I think that squares perfectly. Because any guy who puts a lot of sexual pressure on you is a douchebag — who is going to disappear once he gets what he wants, which is sex.'”

Link and image via MarieClaire.com

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Bryce

Bryce Gruber is a New York mom to five growing kids, wife to one great husband and professional shopping editor. You've seen her work in Reader's Digest, Taste of Home, Family Handyman, MSN, Today's Parent, Fashion Magazine, Chatelaine, NBC and so many other beloved brands.

1 Comment

  • Love LOVE the last quote. It’s so true. I actually know girls, GROWN WOMEN, who still think that a guy will like them/love/want to date them if they give it up. It’s like, what are we, 18?!