If it is actually true that there are a certain number of people in the world with which we are compatible, then it stands to reason that in the span of our lives we will only come across a few. I believe that these people are soul-mates, and they can come in the form of a family member, child, friend, lover, or truck driver (for all you lesbians out there). When it comes to love, I think it is rare for us to find any of our soul-mates early on and we often find out too late that the 17 year old we met in the Wal-Mart parking lot isn’t actually the love of our life. The happiest couples I know are people who found each other later on in life, after they had time to find out who they really are and what they want. By the time you have done a fair amount of living I think you come to understand the value of having a companion-as opposed to being young, dumb, in love (as we have all been) and thinking that you need another person to complete you.
When you are young you should get wild, fuck around, travel to different locations and get to know a sizable smattering of the people in this world. Through doing this you come to understand how lovers interact and fit into each others lives, and can then choose what you do and don’t want in a partner (for some of you this may be your cat- no judgment but you probably smell like Purina).
So stop worrying so much about finding your other half so early on in life and just concentrate on figuring out what the Hell is going on with the existing half (yourself). This way, when you do finally find someone worth giving yourself to completely you will better know how to navigate the partnership and end up with a true life companion, rather than a divorce after 20 years, 3 children and a future that includes speed-dating events, microwave dinners and late night clumsy futon fondling via PlentyofFish.com.
