“When you see a girl like me bustin’ perps, there ain’t no time to be pretty.” -Mariska Hargitay
1. Our Intern. This morning our intern, Erin, sauntered into the office in her usual crop top and shorts ensemble. She looked a little tired.
Me: Cute crop top, Erin.
Erin: Thanks, let’s be real, I wore this last night.
Me: Glad you’re having a fun summer.
Erin: I mean, the makeup too. I woke up and it still looked good.
Ah, to be 21.
2. Dating Again. When I broke up with my last boyfriend a few weeks ago I was initially really upset. In fact, I had 2 solid days of “wow this feels like crap.” But then, sort of suddenly, a light bulb went off in my head and I stopped feeling crummy and missing him altogether. I was just over it. 8 months of pretty serious dating and all it took was 2 days of bleh for me to get over it. I feel tremendously guilty even writing this, because I know it sounds cold and unaffected. I do love him, I just realized that I loved the idea of his kid and the way our kids interacted more than I was actually in love with him… and that doesn’t exactly make a perfect, long-lasting relationship. So with relative ease I started dating again…
3. Young Dudes. The guys that have been approaching me lately have been much younger than I’m used to. We all know my type has been 40-ish, salt and peppery, running around the world in fancy suits, and typically being a little too nonchalant about life for most people’s palates. Now they’re filtering into my life in the form of late 20’s, early 30’s and surprisingly unscathed by the fact that I live a fairly public life, run a couple businesses, and make being a mom my first priority (especially in a city where most women don’t go down the mom road till at least 30 or so). This obviously makes me a little nervous, because it can only mean one thing: either I’ve been blind to the fact that some young dudes aren’t as immature as I previously thought, or they’re just not that smart and have no idea what they’re getting into.
I spoke to a close guy friend about this last night, asking for his opinion. He and I are the same age, and he’s straight enough to give me good advice and sensitive enough for me to actually heed it.
Me: Do you think dating guys my own age is just asking for trouble?
Dave: No, I think it’s a good idea, but if you’re going to date a dude your own age he better have a REALLY strong personality.
4. Good Muzak. Love this… It’s on my playlist like every single day: