When it comes to relationships, at what age do you finally grow up? I was recently seeing a lovely English gentleman who was the opposite of me in a lot of ways. We weren’t seeing each other for that long, but after it was over I had a really hard time getting over it. I would go out with my friends and get completely wasted but not even try to cock around with anyone. I was being monogamous long after my mini-relationship was over. Why is this?
I think that at some point in our lives we decide it is time to stop fucking around. I have slept with my share of dudes, but its like my mom says: One day you wake up and realize that while having anal sex with random strangers is fun, you want more.
When a guy decides this, he turns his open for business light on, and typically marries the next person he meets. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why I was having such a hard time getting over this guy until it hit me in the face that I had decided sub-consciously that I was ready for a serious relationship. It didn’t matter that he wasn’t the right guy, because mentally I had decided to grow up.
Society pushes women to do this at a much younger age than men. If you ignore all the societal hoopla though, you will see that a person has to make the individual choice to settle down and be with one person – otherwise no matter how hard you try it will not work out.