Relationship Spotting: When is it Time to Settle Down?

Written by Gary

When it comes to relationships, at what age do you finally grow up? I was recently seeing a lovely English gentleman who was the opposite of me in a lot of ways. We weren’t seeing each other for that long, but after it was over I had a really hard time getting over it. I would go out with my friends and get completely wasted but not even try to cock around with anyone. I was being monogamous long after my mini-relationship was over. Why is this?

I think that at some point in our lives we decide it is time to stop fucking around. I have slept with my share of dudes, but its like my mom says: One day you wake up and realize that while having anal sex with random strangers is fun, you want more.

When a guy decides this, he turns his open for business light on, and typically marries the next person he meets. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why I was having such a hard time getting over this guy until it hit me in the face that I had decided sub-consciously that I was ready for a serious relationship. It didn’t matter that he wasn’t the right guy, because mentally I had decided to grow up.

Society pushes women to do this at a much younger age than men. If you ignore all the societal hoopla though, you will see that a person has to make the individual choice to settle down and be with one person – otherwise no matter how hard you try it will not work out.

About the author


Gary is the gay guy that every girl wants to be, and every guy wants to be with (Mostly because he can't get pregnant). He is based in Manhattan, but loves traveling to exotic new people, and sleeping with interesting new places. He is an adventurous writer, digital artist, and game designer that will try almost anything if it makes a good story.
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