Yes, I realize that using a photo of children for a post about sex is risque, but this photo illustrates the innocence of real intimacy before orgasm is even an option, so suck it.
Do you remember your first kiss? Even though mine was with a girl (although which girl, I couldn’t tell you) I remember the feelings of nervousness and excitement. I remember staying awake all night thinking about it afterwards. I also remember the mental buildup that lead to it, and the feeling of connecting to another person in a brand new, life-changing way.
Cut to 2012, when I sometimes sleep with people before I even know their name. I could easily peg this as an innocence lost story, but in truth I am not alone. There is something very magical about all of our firsts, which degrades itself with every experience until we forget what its like to be excited. I have been hearing a lot about Karezza lately, so I thought I would share it.
Karezza is defined as coitus reservatis, or the reservation of orgasm. Basically, you experience all the facets and intimacy of sex without the orgasm. Yes, I know that every man reading this (all 2 of you) just shot me a WTF face, but apparently this method is a great way to bring you closer to your partner.
I have been in relationships enough times to know that eventually the sex gets boring. You learn your partner’s moves, likes, dislikes, fetishes, and insecurities, then exploit them to get what you want. 9-hour sex romps, breaking only to eat and pee, turn into 9 minute fumbles in the dark, hurried along and finished because you have to eat and pee. When you become that familiar with someone, you forget to pay attention to the wonder, excitement, and delight of intimacy.
According to some, this Karezza method works. I reserve my judgement on it until I am in a relationship long enough for the sex to get boring, so expect my response in about 10 years.
If you are in a relationship, and find that things have gotten a little boring though, ask your partner to try Karezza. Bribe him, if you have to.
You may find that denying him the destination that he wants the most, will open his eyes to all the things he is missing along the way.
